Relationship Anarchy Discussion Series 2019 - First Saturdays
May
4
1:00 PM13:00

Relationship Anarchy Discussion Series 2019 - First Saturdays

Today's discussion focus will be: TBD

This event is part of a 2018 series of participatory discussion meetups focusing on Relationship Anarchy, including: exploring personal autonomy, dismantling relationship hierarchies/norms/expectations, egalitarian/empowered relationships practices, addressing power/privilege/oppression in interpersonal relationships and community, ethic/philosophy/politic of relationship.

RA discussion meetups take place on First Saturdays 11-1:30pm and Third Thursdays 7-9pm (attend some or all). Third Thursdays focus on both Solo Poly and RA, and will be "bring your own topic" day; in similar format to PolyTea we will choose anonymous questions/topics from the hat.

We often use breakout groups to facilitate in depth discussion, and sharing of knowledge/experience among peers, especially since some are less comfortable speaking in larger groups.

View all of our upcoming meetups and RSVP (https://www.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/).

Welcoming to all interested in talking about Relationship Anarchy, whether you identify as RA, poly, solo, ethically non-mono, nontraditional, curious, experienced, inexperienced... all genders, orientations, sexualities, bodies, all colors -- please join us.

These discussions focus on RA and NOT general poly or newbie questions, but newbies are welcome. If you are new to Relationship Anarchy VIEW THIS VIDEO PRIOR TO ATTENDING.(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1xBdffi0m4&list=PLLzKm5h-wWmJyP2SHOIxHlt6iybw4gS4b&index=3).

Please note that this location has a step up to get into the historic building -- please do contact the organizers if you want to talk about physical accessibility of the space or other accommodation.

*****

Want More? Here is a list of links (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1A9ZAYkgwzupuYxpflhK7ui_D9Wnp2a3TO0Q0Ni0SIHc/edit?usp=sharing) to get you started reading and thinking about RA if you like to dive in (reading all these NOT required).

*****

Consider bringing a few $ingles (or $20s!) -- we will pass the hat to help support the venue. We are super lucky, places willing to host our large, loud, and unusual group are REALLY hard to find.

Sustainability includes community support for the many costs of hosting and organizing a dozen (or more) meetups a month. However, don't let lack of ability to donate be a reason not to come, come participate even if you cannot give at this time!

You can also donate online (https://secure.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/contribute/) to the Meetup any time.

For location and to RSVP

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MDP Nonviolent Communication Practice Group (4th Sats)
Apr
27
2:00 PM14:00

MDP Nonviolent Communication Practice Group (4th Sats)

We will meet monthly to talk about, learning, critique, and practice NVC!

Monthly meeting every 4th Saturday. NVC can definitely be a useful part of a practice of polyamory, or relationship anarchy, so we may also relate our NVC practice back to our relationships. (This workshop is NOT an introduction to polyamory, however, and will focus on NVC mainly -- please check out some of our other meetups for that!)

All are welcome, you do NOT need to be polyamorous or into open relationships to learn with us, but you should be friendly to and open to being around these things/comfortable with others talking about them.

Reading the book is pretty important to understanding NVC, you can read as we go or read it all ahead, can buy the book in print many places, but an introduction (first 35 pages) is also available as a free PDF:

http://www.cnvc.org/sites/cnvc.org/files/NVCInstructionGuide_Jiva_.pdf

Some additional intro resource links are here:

http://www.cnvc.org/node/6853

For location and to RSVP

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Relationship Anarchy Discussion Series 2019 - First Saturdays
Apr
6
1:00 PM13:00

Relationship Anarchy Discussion Series 2019 - First Saturdays

Today's discussion focus will be: TBD

This event is part of a 2018 series of participatory discussion meetups focusing on Relationship Anarchy, including: exploring personal autonomy, dismantling relationship hierarchies/norms/expectations, egalitarian/empowered relationships practices, addressing power/privilege/oppression in interpersonal relationships and community, ethic/philosophy/politic of relationship.

RA discussion meetups take place on First Saturdays 11-1:30pm and Third Thursdays 7-9pm (attend some or all). Third Thursdays focus on both Solo Poly and RA, and will be "bring your own topic" day; in similar format to PolyTea we will choose anonymous questions/topics from the hat.

We often use breakout groups to facilitate in depth discussion, and sharing of knowledge/experience among peers, especially since some are less comfortable speaking in larger groups.

View all of our upcoming meetups and RSVP (https://www.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/).

Welcoming to all interested in talking about Relationship Anarchy, whether you identify as RA, poly, solo, ethically non-mono, nontraditional, curious, experienced, inexperienced... all genders, orientations, sexualities, bodies, all colors -- please join us.

These discussions focus on RA and NOT general poly or newbie questions, but newbies are welcome. If you are new to Relationship Anarchy VIEW THIS VIDEO PRIOR TO ATTENDING.(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1xBdffi0m4&list=PLLzKm5h-wWmJyP2SHOIxHlt6iybw4gS4b&index=3).

Please note that this location has a step up to get into the historic building -- please do contact the organizers if you want to talk about physical accessibility of the space or other accommodation.

*****

Want More? Here is a list of links (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1A9ZAYkgwzupuYxpflhK7ui_D9Wnp2a3TO0Q0Ni0SIHc/edit?usp=sharing) to get you started reading and thinking about RA if you like to dive in (reading all these NOT required).

*****

Consider bringing a few $ingles (or $20s!) -- we will pass the hat to help support the venue. We are super lucky, places willing to host our large, loud, and unusual group are REALLY hard to find.

Sustainability includes community support for the many costs of hosting and organizing a dozen (or more) meetups a month. However, don't let lack of ability to donate be a reason not to come, come participate even if you cannot give at this time!

You can also donate online (https://secure.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/contribute/) to the Meetup any time.

For location and to RSVP

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Diversity In Our Communities Discussion
Apr
6
11:00 AM11:00

Diversity In Our Communities Discussion

Discussion Topic: Diverse Mental Health Realities. Please bring questions and subtopics you would like the group to discuss.

This event is part of a series of diversity-in-community discussions (attend one or all!) on First Saturdays at Cafe 1923 in Hamtramck.

View all of our upcoming meetups and RSVP (https://www.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/).

Welcoming to all interested in talking about diversity & relating whether you identify as polyam, SoPo, ethically non-mono, relationship anarchist, nontraditional, curious, experienced, inexperienced... all genders, orientations, sexualities, bodies, all colors -- please join in.

*****

Consider bringing a few dollars to donate to cover the costs of running Metro Detroit Polyamory, but please come and participate even if you cannot give monetarily at this time.
You can also donate online (https://secure.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/contribute/) to the Meetup any time.

For Location and to RSVP

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Feb
24
1:00 PM13:00

Non-Monogamy Unconference Discussion Day

Free and open to all! An Unconference is basically a series of short discussion sessions, according to whatever the people who show up want to talk about (read more below).

Join Metro Detroit Polyamory at i3Detroit Maker Space, a local all-volunteer nonprofit community do-it-yourself workshop. The three i's of "i3" are "Imagine", "Innovate", and "Inspire", which we invite you to apply to your relationships and the many ways to practice them.

More details on the Unconference format:

Pen and sticky notes available for all attendees to post topics they are interested in discussing. As folks stick topics to the dry erase board, the facilitators will group the ones that seem very similar, and label each cluster of topics with a letter of the alphabet.

We also invite folks to offer to teach/facilitate educational sessions; put up a sticky with your name and topic, just like the other topics. Peeps will vote with their feet and participation is optional of course.

Once we've identified topic clusters by a letter, we will ask people to stand in groups under signs for A, B, C. etc. around the room based on which topic they want to discuss that session.

Each group will find tables or lounge areas throughout the i3 Detroit space, and talk about their chosen topic.

Sessions will be *slightly* longer than iteration #1 to allow deeper discussion.

After 30 minutes, the facilitator will call a five minute wrap-up. Then we will have a ten minute bathroom break, and start over with the remaining topics from the dry erase board for another round of discussions (you can then pick again what you want to discuss next!).

There's usually time for 3-4 sessions, attend one or all of the sessions. It's great to arrive by 1pm to get an overview, but you can also come or go anytime during the process if you're willing to just participate without a lot of orientation.

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- Many canned soft drinks are provided for 50 cents, bottled soft drinks for $1, and Keurig coffee for free. All on the honor system.

- Everyone is welcome to bring snacks/drinks as desired and consume them on premises.

- i3 Detroit is generously inviting our group to use this space!

Learn more about the i3 Detroit maker space (and the cool people and equipment we will be sharing space with) here: https://www.i3detroit.org .

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Sustainability for the Metro Detroit Poly community includes support for the many costs of hosting and organizing 5-10+ meetups a month. If you can donate at the event to help keep the group running (and help keep our events free), please bring some singles (or $20s) for the jar.

You can also donate online (https://secure.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/contribute/) to the MDP Meetup any time.

Welcoming to all interested in talking about poly and related nontraditional relationship philosophies/practices, whether you identify as poly, solo poly, RA, ethically non-mono, nontraditional, curious, experienced, inexperienced... all genders, orientations, sexualities, bodies, colors -- please join us.

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Relationship Anarchy Discussion Series 2019 - First Saturdays
Feb
2
1:00 PM13:00

Relationship Anarchy Discussion Series 2019 - First Saturdays

Today's discussion focus will be: TBD

This event is part of a 2018 series of participatory discussion meetups focusing on Relationship Anarchy, including: exploring personal autonomy, dismantling relationship hierarchies/norms/expectations, egalitarian/empowered relationships practices, addressing power/privilege/oppression in interpersonal relationships and community, ethic/philosophy/politic of relationship.

RA discussion meetups take place on First Saturdays 11-1:30pm and Third Thursdays 7-9pm (attend some or all). Third Thursdays focus on both Solo Poly and RA, and will be "bring your own topic" day; in similar format to PolyTea we will choose anonymous questions/topics from the hat.

We often use breakout groups to facilitate in depth discussion, and sharing of knowledge/experience among peers, especially since some are less comfortable speaking in larger groups.

View all of our upcoming meetups and RSVP (https://www.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/).

Welcoming to all interested in talking about Relationship Anarchy, whether you identify as RA, poly, solo, ethically non-mono, nontraditional, curious, experienced, inexperienced... all genders, orientations, sexualities, bodies, all colors -- please join us.

These discussions focus on RA and NOT general poly or newbie questions, but newbies are welcome. If you are new to Relationship Anarchy VIEW THIS VIDEO PRIOR TO ATTENDING.(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1xBdffi0m4&list=PLLzKm5h-wWmJyP2SHOIxHlt6iybw4gS4b&index=3).

Please note that this location has a step up to get into the historic building -- please do contact the organizers if you want to talk about physical accessibility of the space or other accommodation.

*****

Want More? Here is a list of links (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1A9ZAYkgwzupuYxpflhK7ui_D9Wnp2a3TO0Q0Ni0SIHc/edit?usp=sharing) to get you started reading and thinking about RA if you like to dive in (reading all these NOT required).

*****

Consider bringing a few $ingles (or $20s!) -- we will pass the hat to help support the venue. We are super lucky, places willing to host our large, loud, and unusual group are REALLY hard to find.

Sustainability includes community support for the many costs of hosting and organizing a dozen (or more) meetups a month. However, don't let lack of ability to donate be a reason not to come, come participate even if you cannot give at this time!

You can also donate online (https://secure.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/contribute/) to the Meetup any time.

For location and to RSVP

View Event →
Diversity In Our Communities Discussion
Feb
2
11:00 AM11:00

Diversity In Our Communities Discussion

Discussion Topic: Diverse Mental Health Realities. Please bring questions and subtopics you would like the group to discuss.

This event is part of a series of diversity-in-community discussions (attend one or all!) on First Saturdays at Cafe 1923 in Hamtramck.

View all of our upcoming meetups and RSVP (https://www.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/).

Welcoming to all interested in talking about diversity & relating whether you identify as polyam, SoPo, ethically non-mono, relationship anarchist, nontraditional, curious, experienced, inexperienced... all genders, orientations, sexualities, bodies, all colors -- please join in.

*****

Consider bringing a few dollars to donate to cover the costs of running Metro Detroit Polyamory, but please come and participate even if you cannot give monetarily at this time.
You can also donate online (https://secure.meetup.com/Metro-Detroit-Polyamory/contribute/) to the Meetup any time.

For Location and to RSVP

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Owning Our Shit: A Peer Accountability Circle
Jan
28
2:00 PM14:00

Owning Our Shit: A Peer Accountability Circle

This is a monthly peer accountability/support group for people who have caused harm to others in their personal relationships and/or communities, particularly people in the polyamorous and Relationship Anarchy communities. This includes consent violations, coercion, emotional abuse, harassment, physical abuse, bullying, and discrimination. The group operates on the premise that we are ALL capable of causing other people harm, and that we are ALL capable of taking responsibility and preventing ourselves from doing it again. We can help each other to face our shit and own it in a safe and confidential space.

This group is about self-improvement, transformation, figuring out how to be accountable, releasing shame, and understanding yourself. This group is NOT about making excuses for harmful behavior, victim-blaming, or shaming others in the group for their harmful behavior.

Although there are people who have organized the group and will guide the structure of each session, there isn’t any centralized leadership. Each participant is responsible for making this group a supportive place to challenge each other’s behavior. We trust participants to uphold the purpose of the group by calling others out who make excuses, practicing compassion and empathy, and giving constructive feedback that can help others change their behavior.

What is said in the meetings is to remain confidential, so that we can foster trusting relationships with each other and feel safe disclosing our shit. What you hear here and who you see here, let it stay here.

Please respect the other attendees, their time, and their disclosure by arriving on time. People will not be permitted to enter after 2:15.

The space in which the meetings are held is not free. Please consider contributing to the donation jar during the meeting, so that we can keep the group functioning in a welcoming and discreet space.

This meeting will take place on the 4th Monday of each month at 2pm.

Feel free to message the organizers with any questions.

Resources about accountability, specifically for consent violations and abuse: https://toleratedindividuality.files.wordpress.com/2015/02/we_are_all_survivors.pdf

https://toleratedindividuality.files.wordpress.com/2015/02/what-to-do-when-youve-been-called-out.pdf

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MDP Nonviolent Communication Practice Group (4th Sats)
Jan
26
2:00 PM14:00

MDP Nonviolent Communication Practice Group (4th Sats)

We will meet monthly to talk about, learning, critique, and practice NVC!

Monthly meeting every 4th Saturday. NVC can definitely be a useful part of a practice of polyamory, or relationship anarchy, so we may also relate our NVC practice back to our relationships. (This workshop is NOT an introduction to polyamory, however, and will focus on NVC mainly -- please check out some of our other meetups for that!)

All are welcome, you do NOT need to be polyamorous or into open relationships to learn with us, but you should be friendly to and open to being around these things/comfortable with others talking about them.

Reading the book is pretty important to understanding NVC, you can read as we go or read it all ahead, can buy the book in print many places, but an introduction (first 35 pages) is also available as a free PDF:

http://www.cnvc.org/sites/cnvc.org/files/NVCInstructionGuide_Jiva_.pdf

Some additional intro resource links are here:

http://www.cnvc.org/node/6853

For location and to RSVP

View Event →